So yesterday, I was invited in to Daddy Daughter Day. Typically I have a workout in the morning with friends and then proceed to do a photo shoot or get grocery shopping and other items on my list accomplished. I find a little me time and daddy and daughter do their thing. Well after the workout I joined in their fun. After IHOP we went to Target to pick up a couple of things.
There is a difference between how Chuck shops with Sophia and how I do. Chuck drives her up and down the isle of toys in a cart looking at everything pointing out everything she might like. I go straight for what we are looking for and try to avoid all of the "I want thats" ... Can I haves? ... the whining, the crying, the begging. I look at him like he is from another planet because he keeps pointing these things out to her and finally I say "Are you nuts?" We decide to pick out a Barbie that she is begging for and use it as a reward for good behavior. She gets it tomorrow if there is no whining or crying until then. We don't even make it through the check out and she is crying because she doesn't want the lady to put it in a bag. Chuck is ready to cave, when I remind him of the requirements of the doll.
Okay, so we exit. We were suppose to go grocery shopping, but I said you know I'd like to relax a little bit before we go to our friends house for dinner. I'll go tomorrow. He say's "What do you mean? Shopping is relaxing." With another are you nuts look, I say, "No honey, shopping is not relaxing, what we just did is not relaxing."
He waits until we get to the highway before he says, "You know what your problem is?" Hmmm, boy that line always puts me in the mood to be enlightened. After 13 years of marriage I really understand that he is not trying to be hurtful or spiteful, so I say, "No honey, please tell me what my problem is."
He proceeds "You look at everything like a task to be completed, rather than just having fun in each task."
Man, I hate it when he's right!!!!! He does know what my problem is. When I have briefly lived in the frame of mind that he suggests, life is joyful, non-stressful, and generally goes much smoother. If I could only figure out how to stay there. Anyone have any ideas?
Here's a few new pictures of Sophia.